| 22/7/2021 Paul | How to Improve Someone’s Self-Esteem |
| How to How to improve someone’s self-esteem? If I were to challenge you to create 7 steps/tips to improve someone’s self-esteem? | The Engineering Approach = Problem-solving with a destination in mind One Way to Open: 1. Ask about their positive point in their day as a warmup. 2. Focus on communication and sharing. Humans love to share with someone who also wants to share. 3. Integrate and maintain positivity throughout the lesson. Premise: Montessori-Observation Observe your student. Pose your questions/exercises/activities. Observe AND remember their responses and behavior. The next day and time preempt any self-deprecating thoughts or problems before they are thought. Remember to act without solidified perspectives and judgments. Recognize in detail with gratitude. Ex: I like the way you…(reinforce what they do well). This increases the probability they’ll use it again. Don’t ask open-ended questions you don’t already know the answer to. Be a lawyer. If you want to be surprised, provide modeling. #ppp Be genuine and original in your compliments and verbal rewards. Ex: You can do it. I hope it turns out well. The student feels they’ve articulated their thoughts. Destroy self-deprecating thoughts, phrases, perspectives, and “shoulder chips” humbly, effectively, logically, and tactfully. Reroute. → recognize what’s good. #alwayslookforwhat’sgoodinpeople Benchmarks, evidence of real improvement, and documented gains. People gain confidence from finishing stuff. Bonus: Mnemonics and leadership |
Key Takeaway Points:
- Look for what’s good.
- Positively comment as a detailed observation.
- Surprisingly if you can.
- Always be authentic.
- Writing notes is good. It makes what’s good concrete.
- People need help recognizing stuff, including self-confidence.
- Always pose the question, model the answer, and give freedom.